
Sufi and ibn Dunya
May 30, 2008Sufi: As salamu ‘alaykum my brother, tell me what ails ya?
ibn Dunya: Wa ‘alaykum as salam Sufi Shaykh, I hope you have the words to heal me, but my sickness isn’t a physical one, it’s mental.
S: Yes I did think when you came in, someone walking around in public with that haircut could not be of a sane frame of mind. Hehehehe (laughing to himself), I kid young man, please go on.
iD: (laughs nervously) Yes erm that’s funny. Actually my friend cut my hair.
S: A friend? What kind of friend would do that? Shall I get him for you? I am trained in Silat you know, hehehe (laughing on his own again) I kill me sometimes.
iD: O Shaykh you are making fun of me but I’m really ill, I think I’m depressed. Please I need you to cure me, I heard you have helped many people.
S: No more joking my friend, sometimes a little laughter is the best cure for sadness.
By the will of Allah we will try to make you better, most physical and mental sicknesses are rooted in some sort of spiritual disease. Didn’t our beloved Prophet, peace be upon him, say “No man fills a vessel worse than his stomach..?” And “an unbeliever eats and fills seven intestines whereas a believer uses only one” also that “Allah hates those who eat excessively.” Yet we find people transgress and eat more than they need, and what is the root of this? The spiritual disease of greed.
This advice should suffice if you grasp the apparent and hidden meaning behind them, if not tell me your problems.
iD: Thank you for your advice but I actually have quite a healthy, balanced diet. My problem is that I am unhappy with my life, I am not happy with the cards I have been dealt in my life.
S: (Thinks to himself: “My first reply did answer him, only if he pondered more deeply)
iD: Am I an unbeliever for what I said O Shaykh? I’m admitting I’m not happy with Allah’s will.
S: No my friend you certainly are not an unbeliever. The fact you have taken your time to come to see me, to ask for help, concerned you may be an unbeliever, proves you are a Mu’min with taqwa of Allah. Now tell me what specifically are you unhappy with in your life?
iD: Everything… My job - I wish I was earning more money, my body - I wish I was taller and slimmer, my house - I wish I had a bigger one, my friends - I wish I had more interesting ones, my personality - I wish I was more intelligent, more funny….
S: Stop, stop. Do you not see this is from the hunger of your nafs (lower self)? It can never be satiated with more dunya. Job - be grateful you have a job many don’t, body - be thankful you are not ill, house - you still have a house…
iD: (interrupting the Shaykh) I’m sorry Shaykh but I’ve heard all this before, look to those who have less than you and all that, but all I see are people with more than me. I meet people who are less capable than me but have better jobs, why did Allah make me smaller than others? Why can’t I have a bigger house? If I had these things I would be happier and more grateful to God. Please Shaykh that kind of advice may work for simple people but not for sophisticated people with complicated lives.
S: (Silently prays: “God bless the simple folk) My friend, sophisticated person or not the problems are usually very simple and often the same. This is love of dunya over the akhira. Islam means to “submit”, to submit your affairs to Allah, to put your trust in Allah, your faith and hopes all in Allah. You were not created for the dunya, you were created for the akhira, to be with Allah.
Your nafs is not a complicated thing; it only wants one thing - MORE. You are a clever man you can see this want of the nafs will never be satiated, no matter if you give it more, it will still want.. yes you guessed it - more. Even if you were given the whole Earth with everything in it, it would just want another planet!
iD: Please go on Shaykh, my heart is listening to your words.
S: My friend you need to change your world view, change it to an akhiri view! Your purpose in this world is to know God, through worship. Worship in prayer, your state with God, your relationships with people, your work, the way you treat the environment. You work hard to make these things as best and beautiful as possible.
After your hard work the condition you are placed in; your physical state, your wealth, your job all of those things are exactly what God wants you to have. Be thankful for it and be patient during difficult predicaments. Also know that these situations you face are all from the infinite wisdom of Allah so that you could know him. These things are given in perfect measure for you, the best possible combination for you to know Him. You may think you would be better off with a different job, different house, no! This is your nafs talking again. This wisdom warrants repeating:
The share of the dunya apportioned to you is the perfect amount you need to fulfil your purpose in life.
Please ponder on this. Whether religious or irreligious this benefits all. If you internalise this wisdom and live by it you will find a priceless contentment in your life. If you don’t, no matter how much dunya you amass you will never be satisfied.
iD: Wow Shaykh, you have blown me away. I will reflect on your words and pray my state changes to that which God will be pleased with me.
S: Yes may Allah always guide you, and lastly get a decent haircut.

